Episode:Â 2
If youâve ever used the words âIâm fineâ - this is for you.
With Layne Beachley & Tess Brouwer
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The biggest lie stealing your energy.
In this episode of A Wake Up Call, Layne and Tess crack open the two words that keep so many of us stuck: âIâm fine.â When we mask exhaustion, anxiety, or overwhelm, we donât just dilute our day, we drain our life. Through real stories (a 4 am toddler âbear hunt,â a brutal surf that shouldâve been a nap, and a lost diamond that almost tipped into meltdown), we show how to move from autopilot to awake with simple, science-backed tools you can use in minutes.
Youâll hear why âfineâ often means Fâ˘ed up, Insecure, Needy, Emotional (a classic Layne-ism), how to spot it in your body before it snowballs, and exactly what to do next: breathe with intent, set a clear intention for the next moment, take a micro-reset, and â yes â say no. We also unpack the difference between chasing outcomes from fear versus leading your life from love, and how a Dream Team can pull you out of self-sabotage when your inner âdream thiefâ gets loud.
This is soulful science, gentle strength, and practical tools. If youâre tired of surviving on âitâs all good,â this is your permission slip to slow down, feel it, and lead yourself forward â on purpose.
5 Key takeaways
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âFineâ is a flashing red light, not a destination
If youâre pushing through on fuzzed-out brain, shallow breath, or social dread, thatâs your body asking for a reset â not more effort. Name it, then act: pause, breathe, choose one tiny energy-giving action (walk, water, light, or nap). -
Slow the [bleep] down and guard your âNoâ
Over-giving is a fast track to burnout. Practice sincere noâs and micro-pauses. When you protect your energy, you protect your presence â for your work, your family, and yourself. -
Regulate first, then respond
One minute of box breathing (in-4, hold-4, out-4, hold-4) or a physiological sigh downshifts your system so you can respond, not react. Longer exhale = more relief. -
Lead from love, not fear â and play the long game
You can âwinâ from fear, but it costs self-worth, health, and relationships. Process-driven from love creates steadier confidence, kinder self-talk, and sustainable performance. If youâre not winning, youâre learning. -
Build your Dream Team, retire your dream thief
Surround yourself with honest, elevating people who reflect your best back to you. Borrow belief when yours dips. And when the inner critic pipes up, notice it, name it, and choose a truer story.
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The A Wake Up Call podcast is created for general informational, educational, and inspirational purposes only. The stories, tools, and insights shared are designed to support your wellbeing journey - not to replace professional medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice. In fact, we believe therapy is non-negotiable in life.
If youâre experiencing a medical or mental health condition, please seek guidance from a qualified healthcare professional. Never ignore or delay seeking professional advice because of something youâve heard on this podcast.
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